The OP asked in original version (now substantially rewritten a further from a rant): "Am I the only one concerned about duplicates?" My answer to this would be certainly not, as witnessed by many people suggesting duplicates, voting to close as duplicates, discussions in chat about duplicates (both in the main chatroom and in c-r-u-d-e), etc.
As already said by several other users, it is very difficult to give a definitive answer to the question "What is a duplicate?" and there will always be some grey area. Let me just make some points related to duplicates and also illustrate my point of view on some examples. This is just my personal opinion. It is natural that in a such diverse community as this site, there will be many different opinions on this.
When you vote to close as a duplicate, the text you choose from dialogue is: This question has been asked before and already has an answer. The formulation (emphasis mine) "this question has been asked before" suggests that this should be exactly the same question.
On the other hand, after the question is closed, the duplicate banner says: This question already has an answer here. This formulation suggests that it may be a completely different question, but the answers in some way contain answer to this one. (And I have seen some duplicate disputes where this phrasing was used as an argument.)
If we take this interpretation then, for example:
- A question could be closed as a duplicate of another question which is more general than the given question.
- A question could be closed as a duplicate of another question which is a special case of this question, but some of the answerers of the duplicate target provided a proof for a more general case.
- A question could be closed as a duplicate of another question which seems different, but after some non-trivial effort it can be seen that they are asking basically the same thing.
- A question could be closed as a duplicate of another question which is entirely different, but one of the answers contains an answer to this question as an auxiliary lemma.
I disagree with both these interpretations, the first one is very narrow the second one is extremely broad.
Two questions do not need to be exactly the same to be considered duplicates. If the difference is small enough so that we can reasonable expect from anybody, who has the background sufficient to understand the two questions, to be able to transform one of them to the other one, then one of them probably should be closed as a duplicate.
On the other hand, if we close something as a duplicate of a much more general question, this might be contraproductive. For example, consider the question about reverse triangle inequality for absolute value. If this is closed as a duplicate of questions about reverse triangle inequality in metric spaces, then this duplicate would be useless for many users. Somebody who just started to learn about absolute value will probably not be able to grasp what the more abstract notation $d(x,y)$ means. (This problem is less prominent for reverse triangle inequality in normed spaces, since the notation is very similar. But I would still consider these two questions to be different.)
Let us have look at some examples
My personal opinion is that question should be closed as a duplicate if they are the same or very similar to each other.
If we want to close a question as a duplicate of a more general question, we should check whether we are losing some answers. By this I mean that if a special case can be answered in a way which is very difficult to generalize, I would not vote to close. If it is difficult to think of any other method of answering the special case which is not already covered in the more general question, then go ahead and close as a duplicate.
Example 1 - sums. The following example is, in my opinion, a good illustration of what I have in mind.
- Question 1: $\sum_{k=0}^n \frac1{2^k}$
- Question 2: $\sum_{k=1}^n \frac1{2^k}$
- Question 3: $\sum_{k=0}^\infty \frac1{2^k}$
- Question 4: $\sum_{k=0}^\infty \frac1{4^k}$
- Question 5: $\sum_{k=0}^\infty \frac{5^k}{7^k}$
- Question 6: $\sum_{k=0}^\infty x^k$ for $|x|<1$ (This question is one of the questions among abstract duplicates: Value of $\sum\limits_n x^n$ You can see which questions were closed as duplicates are among linked questions.)
In this case I would consider Question 1 and Question 2 duplicates. (Anybody who has learned enough mathematics to be asked this question should be able to see how omitting one term changes the sum.)
But I would keep the finite sums and infinite sums separate. (It is true that knowing answer to Question 1 and taking the limit answers Question 3. But to answer Question 3 we do not necessarily need to know the formula for partial sums.)
I would not close Questions 3 and 4 as a duplicate of Question 6. My argument is that we lose some approaches which are difficult to generalize. For example, Questions 3 and 4 can be answered by writing the summands in binary. And there are also picture proofs for $x=\frac12$ of $x=\frac14$, which are probably difficult to generalize for other quotients:


(Both pictures are taken from Wikipedia, from the articles about this series and about geometric series in general. I will also add links to Wikimedia commons: https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Eye_of_Horus_square.png and https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:GeometricSquares.svg.)
However, as I do not see anything special about $x=\frac57$ and any answer there would probably be the same as if we worked with arbitrary $x$, in this case the close vote seems to be reasonable.
Example 2 - modular arithmetic.
I will also comment on this, since this is one of the closures mentioned by the OP.
Let us have a look also at questions about modular arithmetic. We have the question How do I compute $a^b\,\bmod c$ by hand? This question does a good job in listing some common approaches and is a good candidate for a duplicate. But again, if there are some clever tricks which can be used for this special case but which are difficult to generalize (and are not mentioned in the general question), I would not close it as a duplicate.
- Question A (generalization/abstract duplicate): How do I compute $a^b\,\bmod c$ by hand? (Questions closed as duplicates of this one can be found among these questions.)
- Question B: $234^{476} \bmod 333=?$
- Question C: $255^{123} \bmod 256=?$
- Question D: $5^{51} \bmod 103=?$
- Question E: $2^{83} \bmod 167=?$
- Question F: $2^{32} \equiv -1 \pmod{641}$
I do not see a problem in closing question B a a duplicate of Question A. But I would keep question C separate, since this can be solved simply by using $255^{123} \equiv (-1)^{123} \pmod{256}$. (This trick is not mentioned in the general question. Even if it was, it would be probably difficult to find it. This suggests an idea whether we could perhaps add CW answer to Question A listing some common tricks which can simplify such computations done by hand. In this case, replacing $a$ by $c-a$ when computing $a^b \bmod c$ could be mentioned, together with some examples. I suppose there are several other tricks which can often be useful.)
I would keep also Question D separate. If we notice that this is exactly the congruence from Euler's criterion for $p=103$. So this can be computed using quadratic residues. This cannot be used in general (for arbitrary exponents).
Question E can be considered a question of similar type. However, it is also related to Mersenne numbers and Sophie Germain primes, so some results about these numbers could be used here as well. So in this case there are even more reasons to keep this question separate from the all-encompassing abstract duplicate. Similarly, Question F is related to the smallest composite Fermat number, which is a result interesting in itself. So I think that such question should not be closed as a duplicate. (An indeed, we have a question on this on the main site. And it is probably not surprising that it was not closed as a duplicate of the general question about $a^b\bmod c$.)
I would have no objections to closing Question D and other similar questions as a duplicate of Question A, if Question A had answer using very similar trick. In this case it would be good idea to add a link to the specific answer in the comments. (For example, if we add an answer showing that quadratic reciprocity can be used to solve question D as an answer or if we choose some question of this type as "canonical duplicate target", I do not have problem with closing other questions of this type as duplicates. Of the two possibilities, making one separate question of this type seems preferable to me; since this would give an opportunity to post several answers with several different techniques for this type of question.)
Similarly, if Question A had an answer listing some useful tricks for this type of computation, I would have no objections to closing Question C as a duplicate.
Let me also remind two points which seem to be sometimes forgotten by users voting on duplicates: