My question comes from observing this question posted by a new user:
I saw in the comments section several friendly and a few sarcastic users (to clarify, I am not against them). They were all suggesting, rightly, that the question is quite elementary and that it is better to refer to the textbook than to come here to ask it.
Then the user asks another question from the same set of problems, and adds "why everyone says not answer my question?". I then posted a cheery message in the comments welcoming her to MSE, and that she must add her thoughts to the question, etc. In two minutes, that question was deleted.
The plot takes an interesting turn when a fairly reputed user posted an answer to the initial question which, according to me, is much of a spoon feeding. Clearly, the user who posted the question did not even have a basic knowledge of what an integral was. It would have been better if the answerer had included how to actually evaluate the integral rather than posting the ready-made one.
This would obviously get downvotes. But the answerer protests against this and in the comments, she insists the OP to accept the answer "to make the down-voters ang." and they end up having a conversation in the comments section and sharing their Instagram accounts!
I believe that such a behaviour from reputed users would encourage new users to behave in a rogue manner. I also believe that downvotes are anything but an opinion.
Shouldn't reputed users be a model for new users? New users often feel that others are being "unfriendly" towards them, which is not true. What can be done to convince them it is actually the other way around?
What should be the general way of dealing with new users like the OP in the above issue?