Is there any way... to get help with asking a question?

Imagine you have a really simple question on your mind and it's really important to you but you lack a bit of knowledge to ask it in the simple (and correct) form and you very much fear to confuse said simple question

A feedback would help, a tiniest dialog with other person would help — but that's not always happening

Are there options, are there people who care, can this be a new feature of the site? (should I write a proposal post?)

This thread is only for asking to reopen (?), but I want to get an advice about asking my question/about what version of my question is better... also I tell about my experience in general, I want to show that sometimes asking the question is not a trivial work too

This is my explanation how is my post is different... but I got the same suggestion, what do I do?

Requests for Reopen & Undeletion Votes (volume 07/2018 - today)

Some of my closed question I have a hard time with asking:

Alice Through the Looking-Glass: is there a mathematical description of this infinite regression paradox?

I think this question IS about math and can at least be reworked (my appeal)

I would like to get some help! (i.e. any slightest hint about anything or that anybody would care)

I could do this myself but I don't feel any good odds at my side i.e. my trust is undermined and I wasn't told what's wrong in the first place

A space of Fourier Transform probability distributions?

I see that this question can be asked better but I lack expertize for that (or otherwise maybe I wouldn't ask this question in the first place)

But the question (in its core) is insanely easy I think — you could answer that I think

And again one of the main problems is that I don't feel like I can get a slightest hint what to do (otherwise I would do any work for it)

And however bad my question is - isn't "Not suitable for this site" too much? Not to mention it kind of conflicts with "private feedback" (I shouldn't ask this or I should clarify?)

Asking a question is not easy too: you invest time in thinking, you invest time in writing, you invest your emotions, you have to be prepared (emotionally and to lose more time) to deal with closings

Sometimes I feel there's no much good faith in dealing with questions and there's no balance between respecting answerers and respecting askers

Does hours of work and thinking and worrying amount to at least 2 answering lines?

I'm not against editing my question or anything.

I'm against some of the "small things" (but not so small for an asker) of how it's all handled

You always can ask/tell a little bit! You don't need to tell me too much! I don't want to attack you or this site or anything! I already punished and nothing extra is needed! Just understand that my situation is not so easy as you see it!

I also just feel that N months ago there was more feedback

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    $\begingroup$ Imagine you're a potential answerer who cannot make heads or tails out of your question? Do you guess at an answer? (Guessing never makes a good answer). You struggle with asking a good question, and answerers struggle because how or whether to poor questions; many aren't always readily answerable. And since you have been a member of the site for N=4 months, you need to understand what is expected in questions. How to ask a good question $\endgroup$ – amWhy Sep 29 at 21:12
  • $\begingroup$ If an answer is "insanely easy", then why didn't you answer it? Please understand that everyone here (including moderators) volunteer their time and efforts. So don't expect more effort from others than you put into your questions. $\endgroup$ – amWhy Sep 29 at 21:21
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    $\begingroup$ When a question is closed, you get a little box with links with more information about asking questions. Do you follow those links, Axid? $\endgroup$ – Gerry Myerson Sep 29 at 21:31
  • $\begingroup$ @amWhy, I don't think the answers are in a worse position (it was the entire point of my writing: I don't think it's balanced correctly). You don't have to guess. And I think this unbalance is happening again: that's ME who just wasted a couple of hours to just create this post (and an hour to clarify without feedback)... yet I'm getting more and more punishment in various forms ... + see my answer under the question = it's part of the struggle, I'm supposed to rewrite the question with my clarification but I don't know if that clarifies anything $\endgroup$ – Axid Ubish Sep 29 at 22:39
  • $\begingroup$ @amWhy, for example why wouldn't you just give feedback or just ensure you'll check my clarifications -- that's all I need, assuming ill-intent or need to lecture or anything is just part of the problem (you're yourself making yourself to lose time) $\endgroup$ – Axid Ubish Sep 29 at 22:39
  • $\begingroup$ @Gerry Myerson, I got the box and the links! The thing is... I fear to clarify anything right now without understanding what's unclear/what definitely will be clear (what's my ground to stand on) -- the question was supposed to be easy, but turns out it's confusing and that's puts me out of balance -- but I tried and you can check this out! $\endgroup$ – Axid Ubish Sep 29 at 22:39
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    $\begingroup$ I voted to reopen the question as it is about getting feedback on posts, not requesting them to be reopened. Therefore, the Constructive Feedback chat room is presumably the correct place to go for help, not the Reopen Requests thread. $\endgroup$ – user1729 Sep 30 at 9:40
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    $\begingroup$ In general, meta should probably not be used to get feedback on individual questions and answers. If every user who had their question closed asked for feedback on meta, then meta would rapidly grind to a halt. Instead, use the comments under a question to request feedback, or seek feedback in places where such feedback is more appropriate, such as the Constructive Feedback chatroom. $\endgroup$ – Xander Henderson Sep 30 at 22:49
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    $\begingroup$ @amWhy Only a small part of the question is question-specific and asking about a specific question, the main question of "where can I go for help?" is a fine (especially after their edits). The answer is "go to the chat room, not meta". $\endgroup$ – user1729 Oct 1 at 6:57
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    $\begingroup$ (I've edited the question to remove the question-specific part. Probably the bottom two parts could be removed too, but possibly @Axid you could do that? The question is longer than it needs to be.) $\endgroup$ – user1729 Oct 1 at 7:00
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    $\begingroup$ @user1729 what makes you think it's OK to delete a big chunk of Axid's question? $\endgroup$ – Gerry Myerson Oct 1 at 13:13
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    $\begingroup$ @GerryMyerson I am simply trying to be helpful. The bit I removed confused the question. Axid will have been notified of my edit, and they can put it back if they wish. $\endgroup$ – user1729 Oct 1 at 13:24
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    $\begingroup$ @user I accept that you were trying to be helpful, but you can't just go around making wholesale changes to another user's question. $\endgroup$ – Gerry Myerson Oct 1 at 13:30
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    $\begingroup$ @GerryMyerson I am not sure it counts as "wholesale". The chunk I deleted was an aside, essentially to illustrate their point, and this "aside" had led to the question incorrectly being closed as a duplicate. (The question probably should be closed as a duplicate, but of an appropriate question, such as this one, which was also originally closed as a duplicate of the "reopen requests" thread. But anyway.) $\endgroup$ – user1729 Oct 1 at 13:38
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    $\begingroup$ @user, you deleted 2,159 characters. In my book, that's wholesale. And it really doesn't matter whether it was an aside, an inside, or a homicide, it's just not up to you to take that action. $\endgroup$ – Gerry Myerson Oct 1 at 13:43

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